There are nails in our lives...powerful connections to people, places, events or experiences that never get broken, never can get broken (at least not without the powerful fulcrum of an even greater experience) and that shape, control or direct our lives regardless of what we do.
These nails are not put there by us. We do not possess the power to hammer our own nails. On the other hand, we are the ones who hammer nails in the lives of others.
God, destiny, fate, luck...or just plain Life (with a capital "L")...that is the hammering force that drives the nail into the foundation of our existence.
We do not choose the nail. It is chosen for us. Our gender, our race, our genetic composition, our family, our social place, our time in history, our culture...none of these are choices. And they are nails. Your gender is a nail...it connects you to a basic reality that will never, ever change (OK - unless you have gender reassignment surgery...and then THAT NEW gender becomes your nail).
The nail is a tethering point. It connects you to the foundation of reality that is your life. It both controls you, and directs you.
The nail is like a rock in a stream. The stream flows, but it has to find a way around the rock...and it does. And the rock impacts the flow of the stream...from its speed, to its direction.
I am a person who is deeply impacted by the power of place. Many places are nails for me...the airport where I took my son to look at planes taking off, Nelson's Ledges in Ohio where my family spent many hours walking in the beautiful rock canyons, Manasota Key where I have rediscovered much of my spiritual self.
There are also people, and experiences...lives and events that continue to impact and shape my life to this very day. Move on? I can't...a nail has been hammered into the core of my reality, and I will always be tethered to that.
So will you. Yes, you are free. But no, you are not. There are nails that are tethering you to realities in your life that you can never break free from. That is not a bad thing; in fact, it is a good thing - a thing to embrace, understand and affirm.
What are your nails? Pay attention, learn from them, and celebrate how they have shaped, currently shape, and will shape your life. It could change everything.
And remember...no matter how fancy the house...it is the nail that holds it all together.