Christmas!
What a magical time!
What a wonder-filled time!
What a...stress-filled, exhausting, overwhelming,
frustrating, demanding time!
Draw
near, and allow me to tell you a story.
For
twenty-four days straight, starting the Sunday after Thanksgiving, my wife and
I, and our poor, innocent (so to speak!) children were
out of the house every night! We barely
had time to think about a Christmas tree, much less actually put one up and
decorate it. Holiday parties, special
services at our church, Christmas productions, other family’s kids Christmas productions,
more parties...it went on and on and on.
By the time Christmas actually arrived, we were too tired and stressed
out to care.
And then...the day after Christmas, and the
14-hour drive to Atlanta to visit my parents.
Too exhausted to see straight, every one in the car ready to explode
from Christmas stress and Christmas food and Christmas parties and too many
Christmas gifts (most of them making the trip with us, which of course made the
car uninhabitable unless one could perform the body contortions of Houdini).
But,
we made it safely to my parents, and instead of resting, we opened more gifts,
ate more food, and made plans to see my wife’s relatives and celebrate
Christmas with them the very next day (have you noticed how obligated we all
feel to celebrate all this gift-giving-food-eating-indulgence as close as
possible to December 25, regardless of the stress, sacrifice, and near-impossible
strategic planning it requires?)
So,
the next day, we set out to meet her relatives...at a resturant 30 miles away
from where my parents live! I admit it
- when I learned where we were meeting them, I was not operating in the Spirit
of Christ. Scrooge had thoroughly
possessed my soul, and our drive to the resturant was filled with my grumbling
and complaining and working myself into a heart attack...all because, after
driving 800 miles to come to Atlanta, now we had to drive another 30 miles to
meet her family at a resturant and....get this...celebrate Christmas!!! So, I wondered aloud to my wife and my three
innocent (so to speak!) children...why could not her family have driven the 30
miles to see us, to eat a resturant close to my parents house? After we had driven 800 miles to make all
this possible? And they never once, not
once, came up north to visit us...for any reason?!? Why, tell me?!
So,
we get to the resturant. Her family is
not there. No one is there. The resturant has gone out of business. Boarded up.
Empty. The sign is down. Weeds in the parking lot. I am ready to become a serial killer. I have forsaken the faith...I am apostate. I am in the parking lot of the now defunct
eatery, turning redder than the Christmas bows that decorate my parents
tree.
Did
I tell you that I am a pastor? Behold,
the man of God!
We
call them on the cell phone, and they tell us they can meet us at another
resturant, which is closer to their house, but another 40 miles from where we are right now!!! Now, we have to drive a total of 70 miles to
meet them at a resturant - which has probably gone out of business - in the
middle of nowhere, and all to...get this...celebrate Christmas!!!
We
made it. I managed to drive the car
while suffering a stroke, and blathering spittle all over the steering
wheel.
We
met them (the place was open, and there was no wait...thank God for small
miracles) and we were seated at our table.
I
shook hands all around perfunctorily, and then sat in a sulk, arms folded
across my chest, refusing to even look at - much less talk to - my wife’s
brother, his wife, and their three innocent (so to speak!) children, who had
all greeted me with hugs and “Hey, Uncle Don!
Merry Christmas!”
Yeh,
yeh. Whatever.
I
was ruminating to myself on how disastrous and idiotic this entire Christmas season
had been, and was so throroughly making a fool out of myself in front of my
family, that I completely missed our server asking me “are you Don Martin?”
It
slowly dawned on me that everyone was looking at me, waiting for an answer. To what, I had no idea.
I
noticed the waitress, looking at me pleasantly, her eyebrows arched in anticipation,
and I managed a very brilliant sounding “Huh?”, bovine intelligence shining in
my eyes.
“Are
you Don Martin?” she asked again.
“Uh,
yeh,” I responded.
“The Don Martin? That is, the Reverend Don Martin?”
Okay
- now my curiosity was piqued. Here I
was, by grand mistake, at a resturant I never knew existed, in the middle of
God-forsaken nowhere, grumbling about this disastrous Christmas trip...and someone
was asking me if I was who, it so happened, I was.
“Uh,
yeh, I’m a pastor,” I said, somewhat shamed by the glare I received from my
wife and three innocent (so to speak!) children, who had just seen me acting
like something more like a drunken sailor for the past hour.
“Well,”
our server said sweetly, “there’s a young lady over at that table who asked me
to tell you that - if you were the Rev. Don Martin - she wanted to say hello
and speak with you for a moment.”
OK
- now, I am totally bamboozled. We are
70 miles from my parents, eating at a roadside resturaunt, miles from anywhere
I know anything about...and someone is sending me a message. Someone wants to tell me hello. Someone wants
to speak with me. Someone recognizes
me. How can this be?
What
kind of trouble am I in?
I look around...and realized that I did not
need the server to tell me who it was. I
recognized her immediately.
Her
name was Katie Wilson.
Years ago, when I was still in
college, my first ministry job was as a part-time youth pastor at Katie’s
church. I was a disaster (are you noticing
a pattern?); the church had been sweet and gracious - they didn’t fire me.
Katie, a leader in the youth group, had
been one of my biggest fans.
Several
years after my embarrasing tour of duty as her youth pastor, I was invited back
to the church to preach at a Homecoming Service. Man, those people were sweet...and forgiving. I was dumbfounded that they invited me back at all, much less to
preach. But, by this time, I had grown
up some, and could actually deliver a sermon without making a fool of myself
or embarrasing people in the congregation. So, I accepted the invitation...and when I
stood to preach that night, I saw Katie and her husband seated in the first
row, grinning up at me.
After
the service, they came to me, but this time they were not smiling...they had
tears in their eyes. They told me that
for three years they had tried to conceive a child, but had been unable to do
so. They had been to eight doctors, had
dozens of tests, done everything known to medical science to do. Nothing.
Their personal physician told them to consider adoption if they wanted a
child. That’s what they were planning to
do, but in the meantime, they had come to hear me preach. They told me they did not attend that church
anymore - but when they heard I would be there, they drove over 70 miles (I
know, I know) to hear me. To tell me
their story. To pray with me.
So,
we prayed. With a strange mix of
audaciousness and humility, we asked God for a miracle.I hugged them goodbye,
and with a lump in my throat told Katie how much I appreciated her trust in me,
and her support and friendship. They walked down the aisle, out the door...and
I did not see them again for more than ten years.
Until
this day, at a resturaunt 70 miles (I know, I know!) from my parent’s house,
870 miles from my house in Ohio...at the
tail-end of a very long and very frustrating Christmas season.
Katie
and her husband were all hugs and grins.
We all expressed astonishment that we had met one another, out here in
the middle of nowhere, two days after Christmas.
As
we were talking, I felt someone walk up behind me. I turned, but no-one was there. That’s when the hairs on the back of my neck
stood up...because it occured to me that
maybe God was the one sneaking up behind me, about to pull one of His God-tricks.
Katie
and her husband kept grinning at me like they were in on the joke. They asked me if I remembered the last time
we had seen each other. I assured them I
did. They told me how they had been
praying for years that God would give them the opportunity to see me
again. I wondered aloud...why?
In reply, without saying another
word, they stepped aside...and I saw her.
A cute, 9-year old girl, sitting at the table, grinning up at me like
she was in on the joke, too.
It
seemed to me that the room grew silent, like in those old Merrill Lynch commericals.
It
seemed to me that the wind quit blowing, the earth quit spinning, the universe
quit expanding...and everything focused on this crazy, unexpected moment.
I
felt God standing next to me, a mischevious glimmer in His eye, wearing a crazy
party hat and about to blow on a party horn...He was just waiting for the right
moment.
Katie
looked at me with tears in her eyes, this time tears of barely-restrained,
crazy-joy...and with the sincere drama of a Broadway thespian, she said, “Don,
I would like to introduce to you my
daughter, Rebecca.”
As
a lump grew in my throat, and the meaning of God’s great joke swelled up
underneath me, she leaned over and - her own, sweet voice thickening with love
and hope and faith and grace - whispered in my ear in a conspirational tone -
“she was conceived three days after we prayed together with you at Homecoming,
all those years ago.”
Her
husband, grinning like the Cheshire cat,
winked at me.
God
blew His horn.
The dinner with my wife’s relatives
is lost in the haze of irrelevant memory.
I have no idea what I ate, what gifts were exchanged, what we said to
each other.
The drive back to my parents’ house
was one of the most incredible and memorable 70 miles I have ever
travelled. It was only 70 miles, but the distance I journeyed spiritually was
light-years greater than the distance journeyed by the Magi in their search for
the new born King. I was grateful for
the distance...it gave me the chance to:
- repent
- wonder
- weep
-
laugh
-
repent
-
wonder...
What a surprising God!
What an unexpected epiphany!
Despite my displeasure, my childish
grumbling, my selfish sulking, God had managed to grab me by the nose and take
me on a 70-mile detour to the middle of nowhere...just so that I could
experience Christmas, and He could blow a party horn in my ear!
Drama experts will tell us that place
is as much a character in a film or theatrical production as any character.
How true! I remember the desolate, empty fields; the
trailer park communities and run down gas stations of rural Georgia...all
symbols of the vacuous and inane Christmas I had just experienced. I remember the stark, blue winter sky; the
quietness of the country; the smell of the food at the resturaunt, the muted
rumbling of the crowd of diners, the clank of plates and the tinkle of ice in
the glass.
I remember the table, filled with
food and drink, and the cardboard reminders about dessert; water rings on the
table, and the reproduction of an old gas lamp burning dully as a
centerpiece. But all those images are
like a wreath - or halo - surrounding the little 9-year old girl who was the
miracle answer to a prayer prayed 10 years before ... and forgotten.
In the most remarkable way, in the
most unexpected place...God stepped in and restored to me the magic and mystery
and wonder of Christmas.
I suspect that He had that meeting
planned for a long, long time.
I am certain that He went to such
great lengths to pull it off in exactly the way He did - being sovereign God,
and all - so that I could learn something about
Him in the process. And, about
me.
And that, really, is what the
unexpected places are all about.
Unexpected places. That is where God is.
Unexpected places. That is where He is discovered, and where He
is known.
Unexpected places. That is where we learn about God...and
perhaps learn even more about ourselves.
Christmas is about unexpected
places. It is a true story, given to
remind us that God is waiting for us in unexpected places. If we pay close attention to what is
told us in the gospels about the birth
of Jesus, we will find that it is a message that transcends Christmas and
impacts every moment and season...and place!... of our lives. Christmas is
a time to remind us that the message is given, and that this message is
true.
Unexpected places. The Christmas story is filled with them. Each one contains a strange, ephiphanous
little event like the one I shared with you from my own life. The human characters are not mighty people;
the locale is not a place of majestic beauty and grandeur. The human characters are shepherds, old
people, poor people, disabled people.
The locales are bedrooms, desolate fields, stinking cow stalls,
creosote-caked caves. A twist of the
tale, a mystery wrapped in an enigma and hidden within a wonderment...all
things designed to grab our attention, pique our curiosity, open our eyes...and
our hearts.
Over the years, my life has been
filled with those unexpected places.
Yours has, too...you only have to look to see! Some of those places are filled with
laughter and wonderment; some are filled with awe and quiet celebration; some
are filled with weeping and fear; some are filled with sadness and
confusion. But they all share something
- they were, and are, unexpected; and God is
waiting for us there.
Thanks for sharing this. This is the Don I remember.
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